Moving becomes a part of our lives at many different stages: When we move away from our parents, relocate for a job opportunity, or find somewhere new to retire. No matter your circumstances, it can be a stressful process. And if you’re moving with a child with autism, it’s especially important to help relieve moving stress for both you and your kid.
It’s easier said than done, but relocating with a child with autism — and limiting stress while doing so — is entirely possible if you prepare and plan ahead. It’s important to maintain as much of your normal routine as possible and to consider additional ways to help kids with autism while you’re moving. Maintaining normalcy will help you and your children adjust quickly to your new home so you can settle in and feel comfortable.
What is autism
According to the advocacy site Autism Speaks, Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) “refers to a broad range of conditions characterized by challenges with social skills, repetitive behaviors, speech, and nonverbal communication.”
Autism Parenting magazine reports that as of 2022, approximately 1 in 44 children is identified with autism. Most children are diagnosed after the age of 4 and boys are four times more likely to be diagnosed than girls.
Autism is a spectrum disorder, meaning that there are many different subtypes , according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The way ASD manifests, and the subsequent challenges and strengths that come along with it can vary depending on the person.
So, the ways in which moving stress could impact your child may vary. This article outlines some best practices based on expert resources. But to truly prepare, you will need to consider your child’s triggers and previous experiences. We also recommend you discuss the impending move with medical professionals that you trust and who know your child.
The importance of routine in the lives of children with Autism
One of the effects of autism is difficulty processing sensory information , according to Autism Speaks, which ultimately affects behavior. Through changes in their environment, children with autism can easily experience sensory overload. Established routines are known to help prevent sensory overload by allowing children to expect predictable outcomes and relieve some of the chaos they might feel from too many changes, according to the Nebraska Autism Spectrum Disorders Network
Maintaining as much of a routine as possible during your move will help your child feel more comfortable throughout such a big change
How to prepare your child for an upcoming move:
When moving with a child with autism, you can prepare them using consistent communication and positive reinforcement. As their routine changes leading up to the move, you can offer rewards for completing new tasks like packing. Allowing your child to adjust to the new behaviors that come with moving will help ease stress and anxiety.
5 ways you make a move easier for your child
1. Be proactive and talk to your child about change.
Try to provide your children with as much notice as possible to prepare for the move. Even if they may not understand why you’re moving right away, you should offer as much information as you can.
Let your children know the reason why you’re moving, whether it’s for a new job, to be closer to family, or to downsize. Let them ask questions so they can gain a better understanding of their own. Experts in autism agree that adjusting to a big change will require continual communication, time, and patience.
2. Create a calendar.
Keep your child in the loop with your moving schedule. Creating a visual calendar may be the best way to keep them informed, especially since visual learning will hold their attention and help reduce anxiety. Include exact dates and times and review the schedule with them every day so they know what’s coming.
While a calendar will help provide a routine throughout the move, you’ll still be breaking away from your standard routine. Offer positive reinforcement and rewards when your children complete tasks on the calendar they haven’t done before.
3. Provide visual aids.
Visual learning will also come in handy to help your child understand why you’re moving. You can use photos of your old and new home to help them understand what’s going to change and what you need to do to prepare for the move. If you’re able to visit the new home in person, it could give you a great opportunity to help them see what’s to come. Just be sure to help them visualize what it will look like with your belongings rather than empty.
You can also use social stories or books to guide your child through the moving process. A social story might be a presentation like this example or a homemade book that explains a specific situation. As a tool for children with autism, social stories help them prepare for new experiences, so they’re less likely to feel overwhelmed.
4. Allow your child to be part or own part of the packing process.
Since routine is so important for children with autism, they may have the most difficulty understanding what’s going to happen to their belongings. Keep them involved in the packing process, so they see which boxes their belongings go into and understand how their belongings are moving with the family.
Ways to make packing easier
Ways to make packing easier
Packing is a chore for everyone, and it can be especially tedious and confusing for your children. Try using some of the following tips to make packing easier and more fun:
- Use colorful, fun boxes that also help your children see what’s going in which box.
- Label the boxes with the contents as well as your child’s name, so they know what’s theirs.
- Pack your child’s room last so they can maintain as much normalcy as possible.
- Schedule packing up different areas of your child’s room on different days so they can prepare for each packing sprint.
- Let your child choose what they want to keep and what they might want to get rid of before the move.
- Offer a reward like their favorite meals after every successful packing day.
5. Prepare your child for other upcoming life changes.
With moving comes even more life changes that your child will have to prepare for. The change isn’t limited to a new home – they may also be attending a new school, leaving their friends, adjusting to a different climate, and more. Research shows that it’s best to stay positive while communicating with your children about changes. Emphasize the benefits of the changes, give them enough time to process what it means, and always go out your way to show how you’ll support them.
6 tips to ease your child’s anxiety on Moving Day and help your move go smoothly
Even though moving with a child with autism poses unique challenges, there are some easy tips you can follow to ease your child’s anxiety. Some of the most common ways to help kids with autism will also apply to a move, though there are ways to make sure your strategies are specific to move day.
Tip 1: Make your Moving Day itinerary.
Develop a comprehensive itinerary for your move day and share it with your child ahead of time. Within the itinerary, include as much detail as possible, such as the time everyone needs to wake up, the time that movers will be arriving (if you’re getting help), and the steps you’ll take to pack up cars and moving vehicles.
